Grief is a very difficult phenomenon in life. All can not understand what the depth of grief unless one has not felt that in his/her own life. Basically, when one loss his/her near ones who can never again be present in this life, at that time the grief is immense. Because, the dead person has gone to that world where one can not return. Generally people say, everything will be normal by the passing time. But the person who has lost his/her own dear ones only the grief can be practically felt by that person because it has happened with him. The intensity of pain can be felt by him/her only because the dead person belongs to him/her. In the otherside other persons who has come across same situation in their own life or they possess the power of feeling the pain of loss, they can only understand what is the actual grief. I am going to narrate the grief of Captain Sumeet Sabharwal’s father who lost his only son in the AI 171 plane crash on 12th June 2025.
Yes, in that fatal plane crash, not only 241 persons including passengers and pilots and crew members but near about forty MBBS studying students and common people they also died as the plane crashed on the Medical Hostel building. Each of the passenger has a very sad and pathetic story of life loss. But why I am narrating the Captain Sumeet’s loss which grappled the immense pain on his father’s life.
Captain Sumeet was fifty six year old, unmarried who was staying with his father in Mumbai. His mother has been passed away near about three years before. His married sister was staying in New Delhi with her own sons and family. So Captain Sumeet was taking care of his father who is eighty eight years old. Sumeet was totally devoted to look after his father, When he was going in the flight, his father stayed alone in their house. But when he was not in the flight service he was totally looking after his father. As his father is so old, Sumeet was whole heartedly taking care of his father. People in their housing society have seen how well Sumeet was taking care of his father. Sumeet was gentle, sober and down to earth person. Three days before the plane crash, he had told to his father that he would very quickly leave the job and totally be available with his father for giving more time to his father. His father was very happy also. But suddenly the plane was crashed and Sumeet died along with other passengers.
When his body was received by his father for cremation, the octogenarian father’s grief could not be seen by anybody. His eyes were full of tears behind his spectacles. He could not able to see the face of his beloved son who was taking care of him so dedicatedly because in the plane crash his body was severely charred and unrecognizable. Therefore the body was inside a closed coffin box. His father could not able to tell his anguish to anybody. He could never able to his son’s face for the last time. As Sumeet had given the assurance to his father that very quickly he would leave the job and stay with him totally to look after him, his father’s hope has been shattered. He had the company of his only son with whom his lonely life was going across. Now, he is alive but his son has gone away untimely.
Here, the grief of his father is very deep and intense. The only son who was his true companion in his lonely life, god had taken him to his place. How would he live now? He could not able to find any answer within himself. When his Video was shown in the internet, anybody could feel the grief of his father. But the actual grief can be understood by those who have personally lost their loved ones in their life. Because grief is very personal. Unless you feel within yourself it is too difficult to know how difficult the pain is. Time will pass as usual but the real life pain will be felt by Sumeet’s father actually.
Therefore, grief is such a delicate thing which can not be told, it can be felt. The intensity of pain is so deep, the person wants to say but can not say. He will feel the pain in his heart, his eyes will be filled in tears but his mouth will be unable utter anything. This the actual grief which can only be felt by those persons who have personally felt the pain when they had lost their own loved ones.
