We human beings always want to have a relationship through which we can share our feelings, thoughts, emotions, pain, sorrows, happiness everything. The medium of relationship is diversified but all want that the relationship should be true and clear. However, are all the relationships are true and clear? Definitely not. Let us we have a peep into details about that.
When we meet with a person, at first we want to know if the person can be a friend or not. Then we try to establish friendly relationship with him. Then we proceed further if we find that the new person matches with our thinking. The problem arises here because how can we know the new person is true in his thinking with me! If the person is a true one having a clear heart, we never get cheated in the relationship but if he is not clear in heart then it creates problem and we suffer in that.
I want to expand myself. I am a person who is always straightforward. I do not like falsehood. I do not pretend to make happy with falsehood. If anyone invite me to his function or occasion, I politely denies. As I do not want to tell yes because I do not go to any function or take part in occasions. I have been told may times by my own family members also that I should not say no directly to the person who invites me. It may hurt him. Nevertheless, my conscience says that as I know that I will never go to his function/occasion, then why do I tell him yes, I will go to your function. I am clear in heart. I do not want to tell lie. Of course, the person may be hurt with my denial. But my logic is that if I say yes to that person, he will definitely in a hope that I will attend his function. When I will not go, it will hurt him more because I have assured him to go. I do not want to cheat him. I have seen many people give assurance to attend functions of their friends/relatives and they do not go deliberately. It may happen due to some problem one may not attend the function but when you know that you will definitely not attend the function then why do you give him false assurance. It is not your conscience to lie him.
In many occasions, I have seen people in front of a person tell very sweet things, give respect but in the backwards, they behave differently. They tell many negatives about that person. Their relationship is superficial. According to my philosophy, it is hypocrisy. That is why I tell many things straightforwardly, my intention is that I should not tell him lie, my relationship should not be superficial. If your heart is clear and you are true in your relationship the other person can definitely understands you. As you do not keep his request, he may get pain but he will never think you as a liar. Yes, I have seen, may people say that person assured me to attend my function but he did not come deliberately. It gives him more pain. If you do not want to attend the function, tell the truth but do not tell false yes. It shows your superficial nature. The relationship does not able to withstand. As, in my case, people never say that I have ever given them false assurance because what I promise I try to do it sincerely. So one should never be superficial in your relationship rather tell the truth. It will create a positive impact in your relationship.
